Good Morning Loves,
It’s May and I’m so excited for the warmer weather and just the rebirth of all the flowers and greenery sprouting. Additionally, I am super excited for the new direction I will be taking with my blog so definitely stay tuned starting this week for more upcoming changes. To start, I will definitely be sharing more of my wisdom moments and life experiences on the Wisdom Wednesday’s….with today’s topic being Let the Past Be the Past.
You may be thinking I’m speaking on forgiveness but in this instance I’m speaking on allowing negative people or individuals that are limited in their growth (which directly slows down your personal growth) from re-entering your life. I know in a perfect world, we like to think people have the capacity to change and most of us truly believe we have changed when in reality….many people do not slow down enough to truly reflect on their flaws enough to work on them. I’m more so speaking on personality flaws rather than other flaws, because it is much harder to accept that something that we’ve grown to become could be considered flawed to someone else. The reality is, many adults don’t change and even if the start of a rekindled relationship seems different 9 times out of 10 the very reason the relationship ended in the first place begins to resurface.
I recently just endured this, because my heart wanted to believe that this individual had become a greater person and evolved from the immaturity they once were. However in just a few short months, I was swiftly reminded of every single reason I didn’t allow this person to remain a constant energy in my aura. Not only do I feel like I’ve wasted time, I feel insulted that I truly gave this person a chance to prove me wrong. Sometimes as women we have to learn to stop breaking our own hearts by reopening doors God intended to close. It’s okay to place a deadbolt on a relationship without feeling guilty. Not allowing someone to exist in your present is not a sign of unforgiving it’s a sign of moving forward in your growth. Let Go and Let Grow. Enjoy your day loves.
Good Evening Lovelies,
So today I had a ladies brunch, and even though I felt like crap about my body….I was excited that a pair of jeans that usually fit so tight I can’t walk were actually manageable. It let me know that progress had been made and that I indeed am slowly getting myself to a healthier place. What’s even better is I didn’t finish my dessert, which lets me know I’m growing in my journey! Here are some quick shots of today’s brunch attire for the coming of spring:
Top: Forever 21 Plus
Jeans: Fashion to Figure
Vest: Ashley Stewart
Good Morning Loves,
This weeks Wisdom Wednesday Moment is entitled: Take Care Of You First. One thing that I have learned throughout my years is that you cannot be an asset to someone if you do not have yourself in order. I know that I have been guilty of wanting to help out everyone out of the kindness of my heart, but if YOU aren’t together…you become more of a liability than a asset. You truly become stripped of resources and are left feeling emptier than ever before.
It is imperative that you get your life together first, male and female alike. This may piss people off, you may lose a friend, but in the end….when you are put together, you then are in a better position to be more charitable to those around you. It is okay to have selfish periods in your life, not to hurt others, but to heal and rebuild who you are. Many people in my life have accused me of being detached or not as available, but really it is because for years I gave my all to everyone around me ALL THE TIME. So much so, I was left without, struggling, and trying to figure out how to maintain myself. It lead to unhealthy emotional distress, and just physical exhaustion. I also was left feeling overall taken advantage of. It never feels too hot to be taken advantage of.
One of my courses of action was to seek professional guidance in a therapist to try and regain my strength to love on ‘me’ again without feeling guilty or obligated to tend to everyone else before myself. I highly recommend therapy (even though it is shunned by many) because it truly does assist in helping you sort out and pinpoint areas of improvement and zones of error. I also suggest that your therapist be of a religious faith so that their first suggestion isn’t some form of medication but rather prayer and empathy. 2015 was such a monumental shift in my way of thinking and believing in what it meant to self-love in the form of taken care of my responsibility to myself in order to fully love and assist everyone around me. I had to get to the realization that no matter how much of myself I give; some people will just not like you. Some people will never give back in return what you give to them, and that is okay. Most importantly, I learned that you cannot give from an empty space physically, spiritually, or emotionally if you do not have it all together. In order to be strong for others in your life, you have to have the strength to endure others issues.
Starting 2017, I can honestly say that I have taken that time for self and am in a much better place understanding that it’s not mean to put yourself first at times. Sometimes the word “no” is needed and the more you can use it when it is appropriate the better off you feel because you aren’t taking on more than you can bear. Those who get angry for loving yourself first and building your worth, kingdom, finances up….truly do not need to hold priority in your circle. Those that love you, always make an attempt to understand and support your well-being. So in closing, make sure you learn to take the time to put yourself as a priority to be a before you commit too much of yourself to those around you.
Happy New Year All,
So how happy were you to get rid of 2016???? I know I was ecstatic to move forward with a fresh year to succeed in. This year the blog, my personal life, and my goals will take a huge upswing. One thing that I am really big on is health… Although last year, I slacked off. This year it is more about training my body for my hormones to work for me and not against me. PCOS really is about lifestyle modification, although sometimes I just want to eat anything I want and not gain a pound. However, that is not realistic. What really triggered my need for change is this week I ate out almost every day but then late on Friday night, my chest began to pain.
It was the first time I actually felt like I may be having heart trouble. I am good at keeping in tune with my physical checkups and making sure I am okay, but this alarmed me. I knew then that I had to really stop playing around and make a change. So this year on the blog, things will be centered on my health journey and of course fashion. However, it will mainly be a digital diary of my health journey for all PCOS sufferers and those with other endocrine issues alike. I will also post some more of my philosophical thoughts as well. I think that one thing that I don’t do enough is share my wisdom and growth with others. I am by no means perfect, but I love helping people, especially women become the vessels God intended on us becoming. So definitely look forward to some of those posts as well.
For now, I am starting Whole 30 body detoxification and will keep all of you posted on some of the recipes I attempt and post them so that if you are interested, you can try them out. I look forward to another great year with you lovelies!!!!
Good Evening Loves,
So continuing into my new tradition of doing monthly challenges, this month is all about limiting meat consumption. With my pcos, I am required to eat a high protein diet but I am constantly on a search for meatless alternatives to achieve optimal health. This month, I wanted to incorporate doing meatless meals. The only exception I will allow is eggs or egg whites on your Meatless day. I hope you guys are enjoying these challenges as much as I am.
Good Morning Loves, So I am following up on my post exactly a month ago regarding my skincare trial using Shea Shea Bakery’s skincare kit. My review is I love the charcoal mask and the scar h…
Source: Shea Shea Bakery Update
Good Morning Loves,
So I am following up on my post exactly a month ago regarding my skincare trial using Shea Shea Bakery’s skincare kit. My review is I love the charcoal mask and the scar healing oil. The acne mist didn’t really do anything for me and the liquid black soap was a wee bit messy, though the scent was amazing. On my next order, I definitely know that I will be ordering a bar soap instead and
Good Afternoon All,
Happy Thanksgiving!!!! Today brings mixed feelings for me as I spend my third year alone for this holiday (without my family) but the difference this year is it is the first time I am content with it, because I am sooo thankful for what God is doing in my life. The past two years have been monumental years filled with transformations and life lessons. This Thanksgiving I am blessed and thankful for the new friends, my new job, modeling opportunities, my moms prestine health after her surgery, my sorority sisters, peace, and being single. I know that last one seems odd but from 27-29, I truly fretted about being without a man, baby, my life purpose….but now God has truly brought me to a place of extreme self acceptance and peace. It is always important to be intune with who you are at all times.
So with that, I hope everyone is having a joyoua and blessed day!