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FIT Motivation Mondays: 

Good Morning Babies,

Although my posting on Instagram and Facebook has decreased regarding fitness….doesn’t mean that behind the scenes I’m not working on greatness. Now that I can fit a new size in my workout clothes, I have rededicated myself to meal prepping again….only this time, I’m challenging myself not to mimic restaurant favorites with a healthy spin. This week I decided to make Chicken Corn Chowder inspired by Paneras new Corn Chowder for their Summer menu. 

I added more meat and less potatoes to watch my starch intake but otherwise the recipe is amazing. The recipe is for 5 to 6 at 512 calories a bowl. I doubled the recipe and plan to eat a cup to go along with my salads, making the serving size about 300 calories. 

To try this recipe out follow this link:
If you love it, leave some feedback and let me know what you think. Have a wonderful FIT week Curvy family.

With Love,


Shape Up: Best Body Shapers for Pear Body Types

Good Morning Loves,

So I am often asked what type of shapewear do I use for those special occasions, and although I cannot speak for every woman, I can speak for what helps those pear shaped divas out there. I decided to compile a short list of brands and shapewear that I have ACTUALLY used to assist my pear babies on their journey to being snatched under their garments.  This list isn’t limited to pears shapes, but I do know that it really works well with pear shapes. Please click the hyper links, as it will take you directly where you need to go, to purchase each item.

  1. High Waist Miracle Suit – If you have that little kangaroo pouch like myself, this bad boy will sleek it on out making you like you were born with a flat stomach for the gawds. For photoshoots I love to pair her with my squeem, which will be reviewed next. later down the list.
  2. Squeem Waist Cincher – WARNING this garment is not comfortable by any means but if you want to have a slim waist and no back fat under a fitted dress, this is your best friend. However, I do not suggest this for extended wear throughout the day because the boning will squeeze tight against your sides.
  3. Me Moi SlimMe High Waist shapewear – I wore this bad boy in an XL (probably should have gotten an XXL) and it does much better than the spanx brand. I truly love the way it slims the stomach and thighs and contours the waist. I usually don’t like many thigh trimming shapewear combos, but this is one of my favorites.
  4. Shape by Cacique Illusion Open Bust Body Suit – I have to buy another one!!!! However, this is like getting lipo in one step. The price point is a little higher than the other options, but you will not regret it if you want a full body contour to your shape.
  5. Lover Beauty Underbust Corset – Not ready to invest in a squeem, here is the very very suitable alternative. I don’t train my waist, however, if you are interested in doing so, this one is much more comfortable than the squeem for half the cost. Additionally, you will absolutely get that shape you are seeking with this product.
  6. Waist Snatchers Curve’  – I personally have yet to try this one, however, the reviews from women on social media have made me a firm believer that this product is worth the investment. I plan to get one soon and do a full review in a later post.
  7. Spanx Everyday shaping panty – now I’m not a huge fan of most spanx products but I do love these. If you just need a little boost of confidence daily with moderate control, these will be your best friend for my pear shaped women who suffer from a little lower belly bulge (like myself). I swear these keep me feeling my best day in and day out

If you have one that I haven’t listed and think I should try, definitely leave a comment below or on the comments section of the blog.  I hope this list at least gets you started on your way as it definitely assists me on my journey until I can live shaper free. Have a Happy Monday and First Week of April.

With Love,


LoLo’s March Madness

Good Afternoon Loves,

This month has been crazy (posts have suffered) but right now I’m really into florals…. and what a perfect pattern for spring right. Don’t worry though, April will be filled with glorious flowers and bright colors,weightloss greatness, beauty, and inspiration. For now, enjoy this adorable look from @trudivadesigns (this is her instagram handle) that I wore to the Premiere Party for the Real Housewives of Potomac in celebration of my girlfriends achievements (follow her on instagram @the_bourgeois_hippie for your wig unit needs). If you love it, leave a comment….if you hate it….STILL leave a comment lol. The show officially premiere’s Sunday, April 2nd, make sure you’re watching this season *wink wink*

With Love,

This Weeks Whole 30 Recipe: Slow Cooker Stuffed Cabbage

Good Morning All,

So I am still going strong with Whole 30 and I must say my entire perspective for food has changed. Additionally, I also discovered that the crockpot is my best friend throught this process because so many meals can be thrown together quickly for seamless meal prepping. This week’s adventure was stuffed cabbage and by far this recipe is amazing!  Its hearty, flavorful, and super healthy. I added 1/2 thai curry chicken broth to the recipe below and it truly kicked up the flavor.  For step by step instructions hit the click the link below and follow my pinterest.

Let’s start the week strong!



I thought you’d like this Pin on Pinterest…

Check this Pin out on Pinterest! -Whole 30 Breakfast Idea

I thought you’d like this Pin on Pinterest…

Good Morning Loves,

As promised i am sharing my whole 30 recipies with you to give you ideas to spruce up your morning routine. Check this one out and follow me on Pinterest ❤ at MsLoLoAlexis for more ideas!



Wisdom Wednesdays: Curves and Confidence

Good Morning Loves,

Although I know it is Thursday technically (I was soooo exhausted on yesterday after work), I wanted to introduce another segment on my blog called ‘Wisdom Wednesdays’ to share motivational and growth points that I’ve experienced or am experiencing to help those needing a little boost in their own lives. I definitely do not claim to know everything, as no one ever does know everything, nor do I profess to be a relationship counselor, love coach, motivational speaker, or any expert.  However, I do definitely own my truth and my process of becoming the best version of me every single day.  I also own my curves and have gone through the many tarrying emotions of self acceptance of being full figured in a world that didn’t always accept a woman with a wider waist circumference.

With that being said, today’s post is centered around truly being curvy and confident and the misconception that all plus-size women are easily attainable.  Sadly, there is a stigma that bigger women need constant gratification, attention, and are more willing to give in sexually because of lowered self-esteem and image issues.  Unfortunately, I have witnessed this and the stereotypes in many situations are true.  Due to a societal attack on plus-size women, some women have slipped into a depression feeling unlovable, unworthy, and unattractive.  I have even myself thought these things when I was younger due to dating men who constantly spoke about my weight and would state “Your face is sooo gorgeous if you could just lose 60 to 70 pounds, you would be much more beautiful”.  Of course a statement like that would pull at any young girl’s self-esteem.  You walk around feeling like you will NEVER find LOVE, NEVER be ACCEPTED, and NEVER get MARRIED, due to not being considered as desirable.

However, one thing my mother always instilled into me is that I was beautiful, intelligent, and made to be respected. She trained me up to be courted and to be hunted, not hunt and exploit myself continuously. Something that I think universally has disappeared in today’s world with our little girls who are now grown women. Sex has become so easily attainable, so devalued, and such a goal, that men do not know how to approach women appropriately any longer. Especially if you are plus-sized. The term BBW (which I hate with an intensity) has amounted to bigger women overly projecting their bodies sexually to compete with smaller framed women and helped create this stigma that plus women are easy and cling to attention. The BBW community is opposite of plus modeling, positive body image, and supporting women with curves. The BBW community is more so about sexual exploitation and exploration  to be lusted for (I speak from my own observation).  For that reason alone, I have completely divorced the word and get utterly irritated when anyone calls or labels me as a “BBW”, I’d rather just be called fat to be honest. Also, Let me SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT; ALL PLUS WOMEN ARE NOT EASY, NEED ATTENTION, OR DESIRE SEX. If I got paid for every dick pick I received throughout the year in my DM’s, my student loans would be paid off.  It’s actually sad because quite frankly it speaks to the reality of the plus size community and what is readily accepted.  Men wouldn’t pursue women this way if it wasn’t working somewhere.

I have by no means been perfect in my dating life. However, I’ve never been easy or allowed myself to fall for a man based off the girth of his anatomy.  I have never ever been a one night stand, a sex toy, or even opened my legs for a man that didn’t ‘pursue’ me properly in the beginning.  I have always been the curvy girl with self-worth, regardless of a few hiccups here and there. I have always felt absolutely complete all alone because my mom raised me to feel like my shit was decorated with diamonds, glitter, and fun-fetti. So when a man hits my inbox with an overly sexual attempt, it turns me off. On occasion, I have entertained it for giggles and to really explore intentions once I put the gentlemen on notice that this is not okay….however if women would stop letting it be ‘okay’, men would change their approach.  I can’t even blame the men if the thirst trap is working on the plus community because of self-image issues or a desperation of some women to feel ‘wanted’. So many plus women portray this aura of confidence publicly, but behind closed doors, are desperately seeking attention on a daily basis. This needs to change ASAP.

Ladies, I want you to know that you are worthy of love no matter how wide your waist is, no matter the number in your jeans, and the rolls on your body.  You are a woman immaculately created by God; You are God’s creation to serve a man that sees you as God’s masterpiece. You are not something that should be easily accessible by any man that wants to penetrate you. Your sex is not a bartering tool to receive affection. Your mind, spirit, skill-set, dreams, love of God, and beauty are the qualities that should be sought after. No man not willing to know the essence of who you are deserves the opportunity to ‘know’ you in any way.  Sex was created to be enjoyable for the man who pursues you and seeks you for more than fun and thrills or a sick fetish.  This is not to say that I have never been in a place of confusion on how to receive love, but when you truly become curvy and confident, there is no room for anyone pursuing you less than authentically. When you walk in your truth, accepting every imperfect nook and cranie, you do not settle for just any man’s attention. Words don’t move you nor do photo likes, comments, and giving you pet names. None of the aforementioned will impress you. You look for actions. Authentic actions that demonstrate that he wants more from you than ‘thigh pie’.

I want 2017 to be about confidence and displaying confidence to men in a constructive way. Flirt, text, do whatever you want, but most importantly make him WORK FOR YOU. If he doesn’t want to work to have you, then he isn’t worth receiving sex from you. You don’t owe it to any man to give in without being treated well. That doesn’t mean be unreasonable but please stop falling for DM’s and Eggplant displays because it truly makes it hard for women who really are not false advertising their confidence.  It becomes utterly exhausting to be pursued the same way over and over because someone in the BBW community gave in to this premature attempt to satisfy a males carnal need for sex. Let’s do better beloved.

Love Always,





Happy New Year!!!!

Happy New Year All,

So how happy were you to get rid of 2016???? I know I was ecstatic to move forward with a fresh year to succeed in. This year the blog, my personal life, and my goals will take a huge upswing.  One thing that I am really big on is health… Although last year, I slacked off. This year it is more about training my body for my hormones to work for me and not against me. PCOS really is about lifestyle modification, although sometimes I just want to eat anything I want and not gain a pound. However, that is not realistic. What really triggered my  need for change is this week I ate out almost every day but then late on Friday night, my chest began to pain.

It was the first time I actually felt like I may be having heart trouble. I am good at keeping in tune with my physical checkups and making sure I am okay, but this alarmed me. I knew then that I had to really stop playing around and make a change. So this year on the blog, things will be centered on my health journey and of course fashion. However, it will mainly be a digital diary of my health journey for all PCOS sufferers and those with other endocrine issues alike. I will also post some more of my philosophical thoughts as well.  I think that one thing that I don’t do enough is share my wisdom and growth with others. I am by no means perfect, but I love helping people, especially women become the vessels God intended on us becoming. So definitely look forward to some of those posts as well.

For now, I am starting Whole 30 body detoxification and will keep all of you posted on some of the recipes I attempt and post them so that if you are interested, you can try them out.  I look forward to another great year with you lovelies!!!!




Winter Chap Attack: Top Lip balms to beat the winter

Good Morning Loves,

So it is officially winter (I actually wiped snow dust from my car this morning) and you know what that means; CHAPPED LIPS! You guessed it! With me having full lips, its even harder at times because I feel like my lips are always more susceptible to drying out. However, after research, I share below with you the top 10 lip balms that will get you through this dry season:

Crafted from mostly plant-based ingredients (shea butter! essential oils! argan and jojoba!), the Love + Sage lip balms are super softening for lips and don't contain any synthetic toxins or fragrances.$12;
Minty Salve by $12.00
This beloved Philosophy lip quencher can also double as an overnight mask, since it's meant to repair lip wrinkles, intense splitting situations (ouch), and dryness. It's subtly scented, too, so you'll go to bed happy. Kiss Me Tonight Intense Lip Therapy, $21;
Kiss Me Tongiht by Philosophy at $21.00




Go on vacay year-round with this coconut-scented lip balm. The natural product relies on coconut oil instead of petroleum to deliver the moisturizing magic that *only* coconut oil can. Yes to Coconuts Naturally Smooth Lip Balm, $3;
Yesto Coconut Lip balm at $3.00
Because I am addicted to lip-dessicating red lipstick, I have tried virtually every balm imaginable—and this is the only one that really delivers (meaning: it's not too slimy, it doesn't smell of menthol or fruit, and it works equally well as a lipstick primer or smoothing topper). Enriched with rose oil, vitamins, and shea butter, it moisturizes like nothing else I've ever tried. And yes, it costs $30. But hey, it's pink, it comes in a chic white container, it provides SPF 10, and it smells like rose heaven. As indulgences go, completely worth it. — April Long, Executive Beauty EditorDior Crème De Rose Soothing Plumping Lip Balm, $30;
Dior Creme De Rose Soothing Plumping Lip balm $30.00 at
We like the unconventional shape of EOS' spherical lip balms because they're much easier to locate in a bottomless hand bag. The Kardashian beauty favorite boasts an organic blend of antioxidants and pampering shea butter and oils, too, for a spa-worthy lip treatment. EOS Smooth Sphere Lip Balm, $3;
EOS available at your local drugstore or grocery store $3.00
When lips need a major rescue effort, swipe on Superbalm for immediate hydration and healing. Superbalm Lip Treatment, $16.50, Clinique
Clinique Superbalm $16.50 at,, and department stores
Beyoncé loves using Smith's retro rosebud salve to prime her lashes, and it's the multi-purpose appeal  of the balm that makes it a celebrity and makeup artist favorite. Use the subtly tinted salve to keep stray eyebrows in place or use as a moisturizing blush for some extra glow. Smith's Rosebud Salve, $6;
Rosebud Salve $6.00 at
Yes this stuff smells vaguely medicinal; yes its color scheme is somewhat cafeteria-linoleum-theme; yes its overall look is more suited to granny's pocketbook than chic tote. I don't care. This stuff is a miracle balm. It's the best defense against the polar vortex and the best salve for the summer sun. — Chloe Schama, Executive EditorBlistex Mediucated Conditioning SPF 20 Daily Lip Treatment, $2;
Blistex Medicated Daily Lip Treatment $2.00 at select drugstores
This may be the grandma of all lip balms. It doesn't have a cute or clever name, or esthetically pleasing packaging, but it has been a staple since day one, as I was reminded by my mother. She used to use it as a diaper ointment or for any skin issue I had as a child; it's both mild and effective. I have made the mistake of buying Aquaphor's "lip repair" which for whatever reason doesn't quite cut it. Aside from the tub that I keep next to my bed, I think I have one of these guys in every other coat pocket and bag I own. — Mariel Tyler, Photo EditorEucerin Aquaphor Advanced Therapy Healing Ointment, $5;
Aquaphor Healing Ointment $5.00 at


Shea Shea Bakery Update

Good Morning Loves,

So I am following up on my post exactly a month ago regarding my skincare trial using Shea Shea Bakery’s skincare kit. My review is I love the charcoal mask and the scar healing oil. The acne mist didn’t really do anything for me and the liquid black soap was a wee bit messy, though the scent was amazing. On my next order, I definitely know that I will be ordering a bar soap instead and

It’s November 1st: Fitness Challenge Two Begins

Good Morning Loves!!!

So October has now come to a close and it is time for another challenge. Last Month the challenge was to try and go to the gym 5 days a week….. and although I wasn’t perfect. I will say for half the month I went 5 days and the second half on average 3 to 4 days once I git busy. As you see there is a slight difference from that work. This month I want to step it up another notch and add doing 100 planks and 100 push-ups a week. Now I know that seems simple enough, because you can do between 10 to 15 a day, but for someone like me who hates both of those exercises…… it will be a challenge. I also have learned setting small realistic goals in fitness will increase your success. Today, I have already completed my 20 push-ups, and have planks left. My goal at the end of the month is to see if there will be an increase in my upper body strength (my ultimate area of weaknesses).

As for the planks, it has often been stated that this is one of the best exercises for the midsection….. which for me is my trouble area. I wanted to add this challenge to see if I begin to see a small difference in  that area. I am really excited about this challenge as these small changes are keeping me motivated. I hope you guys join me!!!!  After all who doesn’t want to look great before Thanksgiving?#HappyGymming