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FIT Motivation Mondays: 

Good Morning Babies,

Although my posting on Instagram and Facebook has decreased regarding fitness….doesn’t mean that behind the scenes I’m not working on greatness. Now that I can fit a new size in my workout clothes, I have rededicated myself to meal prepping again….only this time, I’m challenging myself not to mimic restaurant favorites with a healthy spin. This week I decided to make Chicken Corn Chowder inspired by Paneras new Corn Chowder for their Summer menu. 

I added more meat and less potatoes to watch my starch intake but otherwise the recipe is amazing. The recipe is for 5 to 6 at 512 calories a bowl. I doubled the recipe and plan to eat a cup to go along with my salads, making the serving size about 300 calories. 

To try this recipe out follow this link: http://www.food.com/recipe/crock-pot-chicken-corn-chowder-317022
If you love it, leave some feedback and let me know what you think. Have a wonderful FIT week Curvy family.

With Love,

LoLo

First Blossom

Good Evening Lovelies,

So today I had a ladies brunch, and even though I felt like crap about my body….I was excited that a pair of jeans that usually fit so tight I can’t walk were actually manageable. It let me know that progress had been made and that I indeed am slowly getting myself to a healthier place. What’s even better is I didn’t finish my dessert, which lets me know I’m growing in my journey! Here are some quick shots of today’s brunch attire for the coming of spring: 

Top: Forever 21 Plus

Jeans: Fashion to Figure

Vest: Ashley Stewart

Boots: Torrid 

A Seat At The Table with Tavira Tapley of TNT Unique Designs

Good Afternoon Loves,

As you know being a curvy woman has its benefits, but it also has its disadvantages, particularly in the world of fashion. Many women have a hard time finding custom designed pieces that truly embrace their identity through fashion.  However, TNT Unique Designs is one plus boutique that has been breaking the mold in plus designs by offering high-quality, diversified, and affordable options to women of all shapes and sizes in the curvy community.  After working with her on a few of her print campaigns in 2016 I was inspired to discover what lead her to this journey of not only being a provider of fashion, but being a female voice for the plus size community.  She provided some excellent words of wisdom, encouragement, and business insight:

COC: Why did you enter the Plus Fashion Industry:

Tavira: Well first of all, I am plus size myself and I wanted to have quality clothes that were not being worn by everyone due to limited boutiques offering plus sized clothing.  I was tired of showing up to events and parties and seeing 4 other women with my same dress on because we all shop at the same store because it’s the only store in town that sells edgy clothing for plus women.

COC: LeSe Williams is your house model correct? How does she represent the TNT Brand and Image?

Tavira: LeSe has the body type that truly represents what being a plus brand is. She is a size 3x with a full curvy body and that to me is what plus size women are looking for when they shop.  Most women who shop with my boutique are not a size 10 through 14, so it doesn’t make sense for me to use a model that truly doesn’t convey what my clothes will look like on them.  They want to see true plus size representation and that is what I offer with my brand.

COC: What was the biggest challenge you faced starting your boutique?

Tavira: It was hard trying to find my target market because I wanted to please everyone. Eventually, I came to the realization that I had to offer what I saw fit and represented the direction in fashion that I found most trendy and unique.

COC: Why did you choose to be a mobile boutique instead of having a storefront?

Tavira:  I know a lot of boutique owners and I know that I could have a store but I want to keep my prices as low as possible. A store front is a lot of upkeep and the in order to meet the cost margins, I would have to mark up my clothing.  I have seen dresses inside of other boutiques that are selling it for $140.00 that I am offering for $79.00 because they have to take into account of all the expenses of maintaining that store when they price their product. They have to place it at a price point so that they can profit from the sell of the item and have money to pay for necessary store upkeep. Additionally, I want my customers to leave with the feeling that it is affordable to look great. That it won’t take a whole lot to look amazing, and still feel that the clothing is of high quality. That is What TNT Unique Designs is about.  Additionally, being a mobile boutique makes it easier to network  with different business opportunities in the area.  I can take my business wherever I go and be able to capitalize from that experience.

COC: What trends is TNT focusing on this Spring?

Tavira:  Lots of neon yellow and royal blue pieces. More items with fringe and tassel details.

COC:  I see that you occasionally showcase your boutique in fashion shows throughout the East Coast, do you ever host Model Calls for these opportunities?

Tavira: No, I have my models that I have built a strong relationship with that I know I can depend on when I need to host events or present at fashion shows.

COC: What is the one piece of advice you would give plus size women when it comes to fashion?

Tavira:  Never be intimidated to try something new and to embrace your curves. They are beautiful and you should own every part of yourself.  You don’t have to cover up and hide behind your clothes.

COC: What are some future projects that you are working on?

Tavira:  One of my future aspirations is to start a swimsuit line for TNT Unique Designs, it will be a distant goal due to the research and finding the right material and designs I want but it is definitely something I have been simmering on for quite some time.  Another goal I am working on is creating a workshop for female entrepreneurs to teach them some of the tools I used to start my business and build my success and to also build a networking opportunity in the DMV area for women to meet and feel empowered.

It was definitely an honor being able to speak with Mrs. Tapley and really getting a better understanding of her and the TNT Unique Designs Brand.  Below are some of my favorite looks offered at TNT Unique Designs. Click the link to go directly to her website and shop Today!!!!

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Wisdom Wednesdays: Curves and Confidence

Good Morning Loves,

Although I know it is Thursday technically (I was soooo exhausted on yesterday after work), I wanted to introduce another segment on my blog called ‘Wisdom Wednesdays’ to share motivational and growth points that I’ve experienced or am experiencing to help those needing a little boost in their own lives. I definitely do not claim to know everything, as no one ever does know everything, nor do I profess to be a relationship counselor, love coach, motivational speaker, or any expert.  However, I do definitely own my truth and my process of becoming the best version of me every single day.  I also own my curves and have gone through the many tarrying emotions of self acceptance of being full figured in a world that didn’t always accept a woman with a wider waist circumference.

With that being said, today’s post is centered around truly being curvy and confident and the misconception that all plus-size women are easily attainable.  Sadly, there is a stigma that bigger women need constant gratification, attention, and are more willing to give in sexually because of lowered self-esteem and image issues.  Unfortunately, I have witnessed this and the stereotypes in many situations are true.  Due to a societal attack on plus-size women, some women have slipped into a depression feeling unlovable, unworthy, and unattractive.  I have even myself thought these things when I was younger due to dating men who constantly spoke about my weight and would state “Your face is sooo gorgeous if you could just lose 60 to 70 pounds, you would be much more beautiful”.  Of course a statement like that would pull at any young girl’s self-esteem.  You walk around feeling like you will NEVER find LOVE, NEVER be ACCEPTED, and NEVER get MARRIED, due to not being considered as desirable.

However, one thing my mother always instilled into me is that I was beautiful, intelligent, and made to be respected. She trained me up to be courted and to be hunted, not hunt and exploit myself continuously. Something that I think universally has disappeared in today’s world with our little girls who are now grown women. Sex has become so easily attainable, so devalued, and such a goal, that men do not know how to approach women appropriately any longer. Especially if you are plus-sized. The term BBW (which I hate with an intensity) has amounted to bigger women overly projecting their bodies sexually to compete with smaller framed women and helped create this stigma that plus women are easy and cling to attention. The BBW community is opposite of plus modeling, positive body image, and supporting women with curves. The BBW community is more so about sexual exploitation and exploration  to be lusted for (I speak from my own observation).  For that reason alone, I have completely divorced the word and get utterly irritated when anyone calls or labels me as a “BBW”, I’d rather just be called fat to be honest. Also, Let me SET THE RECORD STRAIGHT; ALL PLUS WOMEN ARE NOT EASY, NEED ATTENTION, OR DESIRE SEX. If I got paid for every dick pick I received throughout the year in my DM’s, my student loans would be paid off.  It’s actually sad because quite frankly it speaks to the reality of the plus size community and what is readily accepted.  Men wouldn’t pursue women this way if it wasn’t working somewhere.

I have by no means been perfect in my dating life. However, I’ve never been easy or allowed myself to fall for a man based off the girth of his anatomy.  I have never ever been a one night stand, a sex toy, or even opened my legs for a man that didn’t ‘pursue’ me properly in the beginning.  I have always been the curvy girl with self-worth, regardless of a few hiccups here and there. I have always felt absolutely complete all alone because my mom raised me to feel like my shit was decorated with diamonds, glitter, and fun-fetti. So when a man hits my inbox with an overly sexual attempt, it turns me off. On occasion, I have entertained it for giggles and to really explore intentions once I put the gentlemen on notice that this is not okay….however if women would stop letting it be ‘okay’, men would change their approach.  I can’t even blame the men if the thirst trap is working on the plus community because of self-image issues or a desperation of some women to feel ‘wanted’. So many plus women portray this aura of confidence publicly, but behind closed doors, are desperately seeking attention on a daily basis. This needs to change ASAP.

Ladies, I want you to know that you are worthy of love no matter how wide your waist is, no matter the number in your jeans, and the rolls on your body.  You are a woman immaculately created by God; You are God’s creation to serve a man that sees you as God’s masterpiece. You are not something that should be easily accessible by any man that wants to penetrate you. Your sex is not a bartering tool to receive affection. Your mind, spirit, skill-set, dreams, love of God, and beauty are the qualities that should be sought after. No man not willing to know the essence of who you are deserves the opportunity to ‘know’ you in any way.  Sex was created to be enjoyable for the man who pursues you and seeks you for more than fun and thrills or a sick fetish.  This is not to say that I have never been in a place of confusion on how to receive love, but when you truly become curvy and confident, there is no room for anyone pursuing you less than authentically. When you walk in your truth, accepting every imperfect nook and cranie, you do not settle for just any man’s attention. Words don’t move you nor do photo likes, comments, and giving you pet names. None of the aforementioned will impress you. You look for actions. Authentic actions that demonstrate that he wants more from you than ‘thigh pie’.

I want 2017 to be about confidence and displaying confidence to men in a constructive way. Flirt, text, do whatever you want, but most importantly make him WORK FOR YOU. If he doesn’t want to work to have you, then he isn’t worth receiving sex from you. You don’t owe it to any man to give in without being treated well. That doesn’t mean be unreasonable but please stop falling for DM’s and Eggplant displays because it truly makes it hard for women who really are not false advertising their confidence.  It becomes utterly exhausting to be pursued the same way over and over because someone in the BBW community gave in to this premature attempt to satisfy a males carnal need for sex. Let’s do better beloved.

Love Always,

LoLo